It was prom night. I was a sophomore so normally I wouldn’t be going but an older guy who played basketball with my brother Colt asked me. It was so much fun. After we all went out to eat and went bowling. Jackson, my date, dropped me off at my best friends house after. Avery was so jealous that I had gotten to go to prom she insisted that we sneak out and attend the prom party at the abandon house-boat by the lake. I figured that the worst that would happen would be that we got caught and grounded for a few weeks. I was sick of being the goodie two shoes so I decided that I would be a “rebel” for once in my life. We snuck out of Avery’s bedroom and walked the three miles down to the lake.
Once we got there I was so overwhelmed, but also excited. I had about five drinks, and I’m about 5’5 and 118 pounds, so that all went straight to my head. I had been to one party before with my brother. He had about seven beers and was fine. Being young I didn’t understand the difference. When Jackson started to leave he insisted that I let him take me home. But Avery wasn’t ready so I stayed being a good friend. The last thing I remember was falling asleep on the pull out bed.
I woke up the next morning with the WORST hangover. I was sore from exhaustion and knew I had to throw up. I noticed on the pull out bed along with Avery was also a boy named.. We will call him Dex. Dex was a senior. I barley knew him.
The weeks that followed prom rumors spread about different people hooking up and what not, but never about me. I was still a virgin and nobody expected anything less.
Then at the end of September 2016, Avery’s boyfriend Jay, invited us to a party up at USM, which is about 2 hours from our house. (Dex also goes to USM) When we arrived and started meeting people and they heard my name, they started whispering. And then one guy said, OH you’re the girl that Dex banged on Prom Night. I was mortified, and pissed because they couldn’t be more wrong.
Well the first of this month I had my blood tested for iron levels, and they found something shocking. I have syphilis. When I told Avery, I was like HOW ON EARTH COULD I HAVE IT. She then told me that Jay told her that Dex has it too. I called him immediately. He accused himself by saying that I was all over him and I wanted it. But I know I didn’t.
I’m just now beginning the healing process. I don’t know how to deal with any of it. I told my mom that I had a one night stand on prom night. I told her I don’t know who it is. My dad thought it was Jackson and Colt stopped talking to him. I told them it wasn’t him but they don’t believe me. Avery knows it was Dex and wants to out him. But I don’t know what I want. I don’t want to ruin anyone’s lives, but I’m afraid if I don’t ruin his, he is going to ruin mine and everyone else’s I care about.
– Haddalee, age 16
You need to press chargers on the “Dex” and when you do that, you need to play victim, because although you didn’t know what happened, you might have came on to him and didn’t realize it because you were drunk. He gave you a disease, that’s not okay, so therefore you need to go file a case against him.