When I was 13 I was friends with a guy, he was 19 and I didn’t think it was serious, I was a kid and we hung out in a group.
I went to his house because ‘he had to pick something up’.
When I was there he started kissing me, I didn’t know what to do, and then he started taking off his trousers and pulling mine down.
He then proceeded to have sex with me whilst I just laid there crying.
When he was done I went home and said nothing.
The next day my friends were angry with me because I’d not told them about it, and I felt horrible, he’d told everyone and everyone thought so little of me. Not until I got older I realised what had actually happened, he made out I was a slut and my friends believed him, I didn’t think it was rape at the time because I never said no, and I shouldn’t have gone with him. I never knew that would happen and I didn’t need to say no, I didn’t say yes or give any indication, he should’ve guessed I didn’t want it by me crying!
Sadly I’m still embarrassed about it today, and would never admit to my family and friends the truth, I’d rather forget it happened.
— Survivor, age 23
I think it’s important to talk about this with your family most importantly family. Friends I really do not recommend some will take it as an immature way or they’ll make fun or you or treat you differently. But please communicate with a family member so that someone will know and be able to understand your emotions if not I’m here to and I know we don’t know each other but I would love to get to know you
Dear survivor,
Thank you for trusting the Brave Miss World community with your story. It is understandable and normal to feel embarrassed in the aftermath of rape. I want you to know that there is NOTHING shameful about being a survivor. The embarrassment is his to carry. I hope you find that sharing your story here helps you find some peace. Please know that you don’t owe anyone your story. It is yours to do with it what you wish, but also know that it is safe here in this community of survivors. Light, love, and solidarity, Alissa ~ Brave Miss World Team Member
Not you fault at all! I have a friend who has much the same story but 2 children with the guy who was a adult when she was 13. Her mother knew and so did his mom, they did nothing! I was all of 12 and who do you tell if the mother that was suposed to protect her from this is throwing her a baby shower at 14?