I met him in the summer of 2011 in college. We were close friends, he was my go-to for advice. He moved across the country in May of 2014 and I followed in April of 2016. after graduating college the previous December. We were roommates, close friends, then he said we could be more, but he kept me at arms length. I was falling in love with him and didn’t realize what he was doing until it was too late. He emotionally abused me in multiple ways for months. He physically abused me as well. He would force me to go down on him, every day, sometimes more than once. He started off pleasuring me in return but that eventually stopped. One night in particular it turned really ugly and he attempted to strangle me to death. I was lucky enough to get out of there, out of that apartment. We work for the same company and unfortunately he is currently my manager. I am scared for my life, and for the life of his apparent fiancee. I hope with all my might she can get out, too, before it’s too late.
— Katie, age 25
Dear Katie – thank you so much for sharing your story here. I am so sorry that your abuser is still in your life, especially in such a prominent way. If there is any way for you to get an order of protection or something against him, that might be something you want to persue. I know that’s probably much easier said that done but it might be worth at least looking into. I would also encourage you to talk to a therapist or some other professional who might be able to give you better advice about what kinds of avenues you can take to ensure your immediate safety and – in the long term – help you heal from what you’ve been through. You are so strong and brave and nothing that has been done to you is your fault. You’re not alone and your voice is adding to the strength of us all. Sending you lots of love!!! Alexis