Born A Girl
When I was 10, I noticed men looking at me differently
When I was 10 to 12 men and boys of all ages honked their horns, whistled and yelled profanities at me
When I was 13 my friend and I were walking home in the daylight, when a man came out from his backyard and asked us if we wanted to drink beers and join his party
When I was 14 a handsome man in his 20’s began spending time with me. I thought he would love me forever if I gave him my virginity. He accepted and took it because he could. He was known for his interests in young girls, yet he stayed quite popular
When I was 15, I was intoxicated and walking through a park. I could hardly stand, let alone walk. A man pulled up in his truck, walked up to me and raped me. He left me there. I eventually made it home. Sometime later, I served him at my work; it was not until he smirked an uncomforting grin that I realised it had been him
When I was 17 my brothers friends gave me ecstasy. At some point I must have passed out. I opened my eyes; I was lying naked in my bed, with one of them beside me and the other at the doorway pulling up his pants. I passed out again and I am unsure of what happened after. I told someone about it years later and I was made out to be a liar. It gave me a bad reputation
I have chosen to share only some of the sexual assaults I have endured throughout my life. By the time I was 20 there were too many to count. As much as my life is unique to me, sexual assault is not. We have a problem and together we can create solutions
The time has come to stop judging, stop the name calling: bitch, slut, whore etc…
Stop making excuses by looking at someone’s race, wealth, behaviours, clothing, addiction issues, well-being, promiscuity, intoxication etc…
NONE of these things say Rape Me I Deserve It
Nor do they give anyone a license to Rape
No one deserves to be raped – stop finding reasons to lighten the load of responsibility for the rapist.
Start protecting the victims.
Anonymously,
Your Daughter, Sister, Granddaughter, Friend, Niece,
Or possibly any girl you know because,
I NEVER TOLD
Keep doing your thing and stay strong girl! Please remember, that suicide is not the only option.
May the Lord bless and preserve you, and keep you safe from harm.
I don’t know you. I don’t know who you are, what you look like, or how old you are. I do know that you are beautiful. I know you a strong. I know you are brave. Even though you didn’t have people there for you. You should know you’re not alone.
Thank you so much for posting this. You are absolutely right that there are no excuses for rape. Your post is so inspiring and a much needed reminder to so many people. You are so strong and so brave. If you haven’t, I would encourage you to talk to a therapist or a counselor about your experiences. Of course you are welcome to share here more but you are allowed to voice what happened, work through it, and find peace. Thank you so much again for sharing. You are remarkable! Love, Alexis