I loss my first virginity back in April 22, 2018 from my ex boyfriend. When I first loss my virginity I felt mad, sad, depressed, stupid, and confused. The next day when I woke up around 7 o’clock in a morning he raped me again I still felt confused, tired, denial, exhausted, and trapped. He became very possessive, controlling, and abusive torch me. The next day I called in for work to tell my boss what is going on. I got a ride to an emergency Ride Out Hospital to do a raped kit then I reported him to the cop. The next day he left me a voicemail he was very piss off by making a threated. He wanted me to meet him at the bus stop in my neighborhood I refuse to show up.
On May 24th 2018 I file a 5 years restraining order so can stop coming by my neighborhood. Right now there a investigation has been continue ever since I reported him on April 24th. Please don’t tell me to get over it healing from raped takes a long time if I have every power I want this guy to be gone permenantly.
Nobody will tell you to “get over it”. And if someone does, they’re a horrible person and shouldn’t be speaking to you about this. Rape is tough to deal with (understatement of the millennium right there) and nobody in their right mind will expect you to overcome this just like that. It’s a process, but the end result will be worth it. You’re going to heal eventually. Remember that. And you’ll have support here every step of the way.
Oh my dear. First of all, thank you so much for posting your story here. I don’t think anyone here will tell you to get over it because you’re absolutely right. Healing from rape takes a long time and a lot of work – usually with the help of a therapist or a counselor. I would encourage you to seek out that help but you will heal in your own time in your own way. And if you decide to share your story with others, you might encounter people who tell you to just get over it, but please always remember that that’s just unreasonable and not how it works. You are so strong for doing the work and for your strength and conviction.
Unfortunately, investigations and criminal proceedings can also take a long time and I would encourage you to seek out support to help you get through that. And know that whatever happens with that – it was NOT YOUR FAULT and you deserve peace, love, and happiness. Sending you all my love and support, Alexis