I remember i had not long broken up from my first love Oliver and not long after i was used for a one night stand i met Aaron, at first things were going well, or so i thought, there was a couple of times that he had tried to force his private parts into my mouth but i remember i kept saying no because i don’t like doing oral.
But i remember on the 3rd of July 2 years ago i had, had a few drinks in my dads house and i remember i felt quite drunk and i remember i was in my bed on my phone but trying to sleep and i remember him coming into my room and he stripped down to his boxers and climbed on top of me and pulled his boxers down a bit so his privates were showing and i remember he kept trying to put them into my mouth but i kept saying no and i remember he hit me a couple of times saying “baby wake up you’re having a bad dream” but i knew that it wasn’t.
A week later i went to my mums house as i was staying there that night and i remember just coming out with it and i told her and my auntie Claire that Aaron had sexually assaulted me.
i also remember not long after we broke up that he got with another girl and i tried so hard to find her to try to warn her about the type of guy that he is and i also told her that it’s up to her if she believed me or not and obviously she didn’t and he raped her so about a month after i was sexually assaulted and the other girl was raped i reported it to the police and thankfully when i went to court about it last year they believed me and he got sentenced to two years and is a registered sex offender for the rest of his life.
if you ever go through the same thing as me or worse please don’t waste any time report it as soon as you can.
— Natasha, age 20
You are brave to have tried to warn the next girl and you are brave to have reported it. Good for you! I hope that you can get the support that you need now and in the future to overcome all of the feelings that you likely have as a result of going through all of this. It’s awful and confusing and those feelings don’t disappear overnight. I applaud your strength and courage and wanted to let you know. Continue to share your story and be an inspiration to others who may need encouragement and strength to report sexual assault.
Dear Natasha – thank you so much for posting your story here. You are so brave to not only have reported it but also to have tried to warn the other woman. I don’t think there is a “better” or “worse” sexual assault; your feelings are valid and what happened to you is worthy of support and love and care. Please do not be hard on yourself for not reporting it “immediately”. You did the best you could with what you knew at the time. I would encourage you to talk to a therapist about what happened. Now that you have some distance it, you can process what happened and take some time to heal. You are so strong and so brave. Thank you for your voice! Love, Alexis
You are a brave hero to have gotten your rapist off the streets and in jail! You have saved others from him! Keep up the good work!!