I was raped involving 3 men that worked in the same workplace with me. MY PROFESSION WAS A DIETARY AID. I WAS ASSIGNED IN AN AREA WHERE ELDERLY PEOPLE EATS IN THE DINING ROOM. I WAS ASSIGNED BY MYSELF(which I thought I was). Three men where talking to each other for I don’t know what. One guy picked me up from behind, and took my to the bathroom and raped me, while one of them was watching and the other was watching guard making sure no one was around. That incident changed my life. I came home in shocked that it happened to me, that I wanted to kill myself. But I couldn’t. Then I tried to take a shower to washed their touch out, but Still feel dirty and ashamed inside. This is a part of my history now which I am scarred for life because of them. How can I forgive myself for allowing myself to stay in that room that I was assigned instead of leaving out of there. And how do you forgive the person that raped you?
— Charity, age 39
Dear Charity – thank you so much for sharing your story. You did NOTHING wrong by staying in that room. It was THEM who made the bad decisions and did the wrong thing. You should be able to be alone in a room with ANYONE and be safe and I’m so sorry that wasn’t the case. But that is a reflection OF THEM. You are absolutely not to blame and didn’t deserve it at all. You are not dirty; what they did may have made you feel that way and that makes sense but you are NOT dirty. I’m really grateful you didn’t kill yourself. The world needs you and we need your voice. I would encourage you to talk to a therapist about what you’re feeling and what you’ve been through. They can help you work through those emotions and forgive – both yourself and the people who hurt you. Sending you love!!! Alexis
I’m so sorry I would give you a huge hug my best friend got raped and she’s pregnant 😨😨