was 22 yr old Virgin(indian) when this occurred…. I’m a doctor was doing my internship at bangalore medical college… I was so fed up with studies I wanted to have fun i made new friends and one among that was a girl named kritta .. she was living the life of a party animal and I wanted to live like her …. so I started partying with her and going to rave parties and stuff …. whenever I was stoned she would take care of me ….. make sure I was safe n all… she had an Iraqi boyfriend with whom she had a fight with recently and she wanted to get distracted away from the fact that her boyfriend was cheating on her so we decided to get drunk at her apartment…. we had got antiquity and had started with drinking ….. when one of her friend from Mexico just showed up and he joined us for drinks …. he had weed !!! Excited we had all smoked up 2 joints each !!! Her sister aish joined us later that night !!! We all got supper drunk n turned up music to full blast volume and were dancing and we’re having super fun … when my friend got a call that her friend was admitted to hospital due to alcohol overdose so she and her sister left immediately… I was at home because I was super drunk and would pass out anytime next they asked that Mexican guy to take care of me !!! He took advantage of the situation and started advancing towards me … I couldn’t fight back as I was almost in a paralyzed state … he lifted me from the sofa took me to my friends room started to take of my clothes and he took off his … at this point it was very difficult for me to keep my eyes open I tried my best to stay awake and try to push him off ! He was way too strong … then I blacked out … kinda good thing because I didn’t need a memory of how stupid I was and how the stupidity cost my virginity…. as I woke up I was lying naked in my friends room I had no idea what to do …. I can’t tell my parents (conservative parents) they’ll be like get out of the house or u won’t get a bride groom u lost your dignity !!! I can’t tell my friends they’ll stop talking to me …. I am clueless …. I just pretend it’s a bad dream and continue with my work … I for now completely avoid kritta n her gang and also avoid drinking n doing weed which costed me so dearly….😓😓😢😭
happened on Feb 22nd 2016….. and yet now I have remained shut I have no idea what to do ??
— Survivor, age 22
While I hate drugs and rave parties for all such reasons, I guess you are one strong woman who mustered the guts to share your ordeal here, publicly. Being an Indian guy, trust me, today the world is a lot more sensible and anyone who loves a girl, loves her for what she is, and not her hymen.
While the emotional scars would stay with you quite a while, I am sure they can be a good motivator to ensure you weigh all pros and cons aptly in life. That said, trust me, it is easier to get over it if you make yourself stronger in the will and confident in the head that you are no less than anyone else. No damage on the surface of the body would stay long enough to remind you of anything, so live a normal life.
All the best 🙂
You need to tell your friends, or someone!! I know how scary it is!! A very similar story happened to me. If they truly care about you they will help you through this. You can’t carry this alone. Be brave. I have a very judgmental father. At points in my life he wanted to disown me, but when I finally told my father what that man did to me he held me and wanted to bring that man justice. Trust that you’re family will love you no matter what!! It wasn’t your fault that HE took advantage of you!
Your experience was terrible. I would encourage you to talk to professional, a psychologist who specialises in women’s issues, and to be cautious about telling anyone, including your family. Take care and be kind to yourself.