When at a party, highly intoxicated, a boy thought it was okay to take kissing to mean forceful fingering, to mean trying to have sex even when there was blood everywhere, leaving her with a fear of sex contributing to a psychological problem called vaginismus, preventing her from enjoying sex for the next 4 years.
When at work, male staff think it is okay to make jokes about girls looks, breasts, figures, womanhood, sexuality. To make fun of rumour of girls ‘promiscuity’. To inappropriately slap an arse, laugh it off.
When back at his, after a girl says enough is enough, she doesn’t want to do anything anymore, just go home, a boy thinks it is okay to consistently tell her not to leave. Stop her from leaving. Convince her to stay the night ‘nothing will happen’, so she can go home ‘safely’ in the morning, then, when the girl is asleep, climb on top of her, pull out his tiny cock and fondle himself, and when said girl wakes up, try to put his tiny cock in her hands.
When in a club, a man thinks it is okay to turn around, grab a girl by the throat, and try to strangle her.
When in a club, a girl kisses a boy, decides not to kiss him any more, and this gives said boy the ‘right’ to follow said girl around the club, grabbing her arse, trying to kiss her again, even when the answer is no.
When at work, the head chef of a restaurant thinks it is okay to make crude comments such as ‘ohhh, the way you look right now, is giving me a hard on’… in the process of handing a dish of food out to said girl to be delivered to a table.
When walking through the streets at midday, a man thinks it is okay to come up to a girl, grab her on the arse, then run off.
And out off all these times, when have I reacted and done something about it? I think my own inability to react and to say no, to let the perpetrator know they are doing something wrong, is what makes this all harder to accept.
— Survivor, age 20