I’m a 21 years old who never grew up with a father. My mom would often go on dates when I was younger.There was this one man who was really kind, every weekend he would bring the family gifts.My mom loved him so much i think she thought he was the one! One night as he was leaving our apartment i heard him tell my mother that he was going to tell us goodnight so he passed by the bedroom,he went first to my little sister then he went to me( i was pretending to sleep) I was expecting a kiss on the cheek or something normal…but instead i felt his hands down my panties.This continued for a long time.Once he stayed home to babysit i was also very young around 9 years old, he told me to perform sexual acts on him.That’s not all that happened.
I’m choosing to forgive that man but I’m still greatly affected by it. I cannot be around a man alone and feel safe. I currently don’t trust men! I have a 12 year old sister and I’m watching her as a hawk.
But my healing is a process, I’m using that experience to help me, help someone else.
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What that man did to you is so unfair – but you are a HERO – to protect your sister – she is very lucky to have you and so are others I bet you will help in your life as that is how you are – a good, brave person. Do try to talk to a therapist or a counselor and thank you for being an inspiration!
Sharon’s right, you’re a hero. I and so many others admire your strength and your courage.
Thank you so much for sharing your story here. You are so brave and forgiving that man is a brave choice that I’m really proud of you for making. Forgiveness, I’ve found, is for the forgiver, not the one being forgiven. It never makes what he did to you ok. You are absolutely right that healing is a process. It can be a long one with many ups and downs but I definitely believe you can do it. If you’re not already I would encourage you to talk to a therapist or a counselor who can help guide you down that path. They can also help you feel safe around men – good men – and learning to feel safe in general. It’s so hard but I believe in you and I know you can do it. Sending you love, Alexis